People who don't feel the need to control every little thing aren't careless; they're usually deeply secure. These ten unbothered reasons reveal why letting go of constant control often leads to ...

We like to believe we have control over our lives. That if we plan enough, think ahead enough, or prepare for every possible outcome, we can ensure that things will turn out the way we want. But then ...

What if control is just a story we tell ourselves to feel safe? Most of us know we can’t control everything—life is unpredictable, after all—but we trust that if we plan carefully, try hard, and act ...

I was 26 when I had an epiphany. I realised what I knew about the pursuit of happiness was all wrong. Basically, I had chased happiness out of my life. When I realised this, I was horrified. How could ...

Until this afternoon, I had planned to write this column about a quote I read in one of Julia Quinn’s Bridgerton books. But, life intervened in the form of a disagreement with my son. I expressed my ...

The author and podcast host reveals how to let go of control. Credit...Photo Illustration by The New York Times; Background: Brian Rea; Inset photo: Tony Luong for The New York Times Supported by The ...